I’ve been getting this question a lot lately: How can I use Feng Shui to bring a new relationship into my life? Well, here are a few suggestions to get you going! Remember…Feng Shui addresses both the seen and unseen aspects of your environment.
1. Let go of any past regrets, anger or guilt. So a prior relationship didn’t work out – how much of that do you want to carry into a new one? People grow and change, but not always at the same speed. Bless it, accept that you learned what you do and do not want moving forward, and…….Let It Go! This includes old photos, cards, memorabilia, etc. If you keep it, you will be still holding space for this old, dead-end relationship in your life, which prevents something new from coming along. This is especially important if there was a lot of energy invested, such as with a marriage. If you still feel a pang of emotion when you look at something, it’s time to release it out of your environment.
2. Set your intention on what you want and be specific. What do you really want in a successful, long-term relationship? The Law of Attraction works to bring you what you are vibrationally sending out, so raise your vibration!! Write your intentions down on paper and state you’d like this or something even better to come along. Give the Universe some wiggle room. When making your list, consider that what most of us really want is to feel loved, respected and supported. Physical features are fine to list, but are there certain interests, personality traits, and habits you desire above all else?’ Have fun putting in this order – put thought into your must-haves.
3. Place your intention in the Love/Relationship gua of your bedroom or your home (the far right corner from the entrance). You can wrap it up with a 9 inch red ribbon, to give it more FIRE energy and place it next to a pair of anything that evokes romance to you: a pair of red, pink or white candles, two pink quartz crystals or stones of equal size, two red roses (silk ones work well so they won’t wither) in a vase – you get the picture. The symbolism is literal, so keep it positive and of equal size as best you can. I’m sure most people would not wish to have one person in the relationship overpowering the other. You can also use any other symbolism you connect with. I love this abundant heart bouquet card I found (pictured above). It is currently on display in the Relationship area of a table in our bedroom.
4. Check all Love & Relationship areas in your home. Again, this is the far right corner of your house or apartment and in each room (http://feelgoodinyourspace.com/bagua-map/) . Go from room to room and see what’s keeping romance away. Do you see dirt bunnies, empty boxes, dirty laundry or just basic clutter in those areas? Move it out and clean it up, and yes – closets do count!! If you have a bedroom closet or food pantry in this corner, get it organized. If you find that you are actually missing the right corner of your home (it may be cut out of your building, or where an outside stairway is located), hiring a feng shui consultant would be beneficial. A missing area can be problematic if you find that the corresponding area of your life is having negative issues.
5. Create a romantic and relaxing bedroom. Please refer to my February 2012 blog post where I covered this in detail.
6. Make sure your artwork isn’t counterproductive to your goal. You want to see yourself in a relationship, so remove any photos you have of yourself, alone, from all areas of your space, especially the bedroom! Move all family and religious photos out of the bedroom as well. Nothing can dampen the feeling of intimacy with another more than having others staring at you, especially your children. I also suggest you look through your entire home to see if you are displaying other lonely images (a lone animal, a picture of one flower, one person vignettes, etc). These items may have been appealing to you while you were going through another phase of your life, but they don’t support your current goal of sharing your life (and space) with someone else. Peruse stores, boutiques and galleries for inspiring, affordable, romantic artwork. Why not design something yourself? Pick a pair of something you enjoy and go with it!
7. Keep your home entrance open to new opportunities. If your home entrance is cluttered, or the door can’t open fully, ch’i (life energy) won’t be able to come in and circulate around you. Place a beautiful welcome mat out and invite the positive ch’i in (and also that someone special).
8. Keep yourself in good repair! It’s not just your physical space that needs to feel renewed and open. Do some Feng Shui on your physical self. Eat healthy, get plenty of good quality sleep, spend time out in nature, and focus on things in your life that you feel grateful and happy about! The best relationship you can have is the one with yourself first. Once that is going well, it will be easier for that wonderful someone to find you.
As with all things Feng Shui, perform these intentions, clearings and enhancements with a light and positive heart. Be patient and let things come to you once you’ve laid the welcome mat out!